Let’s Talk Cake: What Cake To Order For Your Cake Smash Session

June 15, 2021

I have learned A LOT about cakes over the past 6 years; especially what one year old’s will or will not tolerate as far as taste and texture. I chat with families over the phone during the planning process to make sure the right cake for your baby is ordered.

first birthday cake smash cakes for boy and girl


      The Economical/Practical Cake

  • I strongly recommend ordering from Kroger (the cake is no more than $20)
  • This part is SUPER Important: Ask to order a two layered, 8 inch round white cake with white WHIPPY ICING. DO NOT ask to order a smash cake. If you do, they will make a one layer 6 inch cake. It’s super small and looks like a pancake.
  • Why Whippy Icing: It is very light and not too sweet. It’s not rough, hard, dry, gritty, too sweet, or butter tasting. For a baby who has never had cake/icing, it is perfect! It also doesn’t clump up as bad and stick in their hands like buttercream and regular icing. Babies can be texture sensitive and so far the whippy icing I’ve had great success with!
  • The Cake Topper: I will provide a cake topper that matches the color and or theme of your cake smash.

The Decked Out Cake

  • This part is SUPER Important: Ask to order a two or three layered, 8 inch round cake. DO NOT ask to order a smash cake. If you do, they will make a one layer 6 inch cake. It’s super small and looks like a pancake.
  • ICING: The best icing is soft icing. Fondant is gorgeous! But, it can also be very difficult for babies to actually get through and smash let alone eat. If you want fondant, please be aware of this.
    ICING COLOR: Try to keep the icing white/light colors. DO NOT order red or black icing or chocolate icing! Think Zombies, poo, or eating coal. Trust me. Moms who ignored this REALLY regretted it later.
  • CAKE: Order white or yellow cake. Do not order anything else! Do not order chocolate (looks like they’re eating you know what), pumpkin spice, strawberry (think zombies), etc.
  • The Color/Theme: Make sure to communicate well with your baker as far as what colors or theme you would like for the cake. Some bakers like having visual references such as images from Pinterest, etc.
  • WARNING! Wood Toothpicks/Dowels INSIDE the cake: Some bakeries use large wooden “toothpicks” on the INSIDE of the cakes in order to hold the layers together. PLEASE make sure to ask your bakery if they use these and if it’s possible to not have them at all!! We DO NOT want your baby to go face first into the cake and there be one of these inside of the cake!
  • A Cold Cake Equals a Hard Cake: Make sure you remove the cake from the fridge a few hours before leaving to come to your session. Hard, cold cakes are difficult for babies to smash and they don’t like cold very much.

Bakeries I Recommend Ordering From

A collage of cake smash sessions by Amanda Estep Photography



Pinterest and social media make cake smashes look like every single baby is having the time of their lives and absolutely obliterating the cake. I’d say 80% do like the cake and smash pretty well! But, there is some prepping to do before the session to hopefully make it go the best it possibly can. Babies have never sat on a floor and ate huge pieces of sugary sweet food before. They’ve never sat on the floor to eat anything! They’re usually in a high chair. So, sitting on the floor to eat is a completely new and foreign concept for them. Usually when they are on the floor and put something in their mouths we immediately tell them NO and take whatever is in their hands/mouth away from them. They’re also used to small, fingertip sized food they can pick up and eat; not a huge cake. So, arriving at the session having never experienced something like this before….and now in a totally new environment can be completely overwhelming for them. These prep tips for home usually help them get used to the idea of what they will experience during their session.

I recommend doing the following the week before your cake smash:

  • Get Cake BEFORE the Cake Smash: This is for two reasons! First, we are testing for allergy issues. It’s unlikely your baby will have an allergy issue with the cake/icing. However, if they do have an allergy (dairy egg, gluten, food coloring, etc), it’s much better to find this out at home then here. Secondly, it’s to get baby used to the idea of sitting on the floor and eating something; specifically sweet icing and cake!
  • Get the Cupcakes: Order/purchase one or two cupcakes from whomever you are ordering the cake from. Make sure it is the type of cake and icing they will be using. Again, we’re also testing and making sure there are no allergy issues!
  • Let’s Test it Out: Clean off a place on your kitchen floor. Set baby down with the cupcake, and let them explore and mess with the cupcake.

Make sure to browse my website for ideas! I’d love to hear from you too if you have any questions, concerns, or have a recommendation on your favorite baker. I love expanding the list to help support other small businesses. Feel free to contact me!


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